In July 2021 my Uncle Bilal was dying of lymphoma. In the days before his death, our family gathered at his hospital bed to ‘keep him comfortable’. Comfort was a sponge dipped in icy water for his dry mouth – I think they’re called ‘oral care swabs’ – and loved ones in the room. A week or so earlier, so many of us wouldn’t have been allowed in; only people who were ‘actively dying’ could have more than three visitors at a time.

