- Cohabitation without Marriage by Michael Freeman and Christina Lyon
Gower, 228 pp, £15.00, April 1983, ISBN 0 566 00455 0
- A Prison of Expectations: The Family in Victorian Culture by Steven Mintz
New York, 234 pp, $32.50, May 1983, ISBN 0 8147 5388 4
- What is to be done about the family? edited by Lynne Segal
Penguin, 237 pp, £2.50, April 1983, ISBN 0 14 006596 2
- ‘Autistic’ Children: New Hope for a Cure by N. Tinbergen and E.A. Tinbergen
Allen and Unwin, 362 pp, £19.50, April 1983, ISBN 0 04 157010 3
- Thicker than water? Adoption: Its Loyalties, Pitfalls and Joys by Alice Heim
Secker, 211 pp, £8.95, May 1983, ISBN 0 436 19155 5
- BuyThe Artificial Family: A Consideration of Artificial Insemination by Donor by R. Snowden and G.D. Mitchell
Counterpoint, 138 pp, £2.95, April 1983, ISBN 0 04 176002 6
The question what we are to think of the family has taken on a new urgency. We are flooded with instructions. Thatcherism is identified with a call to return to Victorian values. These consist in the teaching and learning of a moral code, respect for and obedience to a patriarchal figure, and a subordinate and primarily domestic role for women. The return is thus a return to the quintessential family. On the other hand, following the 1960s’ denunciation of the family by psychiatrists and sociologists as the seat of all conflict and derangement, we now have the radical-socialist feminists who regard the family in much the same light. Far from the family being that which is essential to the structure of society, on whose preservation we depend for the future of civilised life, they regard it as an instrument of exploitation: an institution designed for the oppression of women and children, and propped up by all the buttresses of a masculine ideology. Presented thus, the conflict of attitudes towards the family may seem a straight fight between right and left, a political battle in the narrowest sense. Or it may seem a conflict between the self-interested conservatism of men, and the imaginative radicalism of women, who, if they are feminists, tend now to present themselves as revolutionaries or nothing. Unsurprisingly, such dichotomies do not help us greatly in settling, at a practical level, whether or not the family as an institution is at all costs to be defended.
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